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Therapy for the experiences nobody prepared you for.
Specialized trauma therapy for birth trauma, pregnancy loss, infertility, NICU stays, TFMR, and perinatal grief
You are in the right place.
Maybe your birth didn't go the way it was supposed to. Maybe you've lost a pregnancy, or more than one, and had to go home the same day and act like everything was fine.
Maybe you've been through round after round of fertility treatment, and the grief of it is something you carry completely alone. Maybe you have a healthy baby at home, and you still don't feel okay, and the guilt about that is making everything worse.
Maybe something happened in a medical setting, and the people around you moved on long before you did.
You keep replaying it. Going over every moment, every decision, every detail, trying to make it make sense.
You know you're supposed to feel different than this. But underneath everything, there's something heavy that nobody seems to want to name.
You're not the only one. What you went through was real, it has a name, and you don't have to keep carrying it alone.
Birth Trauma
An emergency c-section you weren't prepared for. A labor where you kept asking for help that didn't come. A delivery where things were happening around you and nobody stopped to explain or ask if you were okay. A birth where your baby was swept away before you got to hold them.
You might have a healthy baby at home right now. That doesn't mean you weren't traumatized. Both things can be true at the same time.
TFMR
Termination for medical reasons is one of the most isolating losses there is. You made an impossible decision in an impossible situation, often without anywhere to put the grief that followed. This is a space where you don't need to explain or justify anything. The decision you made was made with love. The grief it left behind deserves real care.
NICU Stays and Complicated Beginnings
You waited months to meet your baby and when they arrived, everything went sideways. The fear, the helplessness, the hypervigilance that followed you home. That's trauma. And it responds to treatment.
Pregnancy Loss
Miscarriage. Stillbirth. TFMR. Ectopic pregnancy. Second trimester loss. Whatever the circumstance, this is a real and devastating grief that often happens without the acknowledgment or rituals that other losses receive. This work makes room for the whole story, including the parts that feel too complicated or too dark to say out loud.
What I want you to know.
Infertility and Fertility Treatment Grief
Month after month. Treatment after treatment. The hoping, the crashing, the trying to gear yourself back up to try again. Fertility treatment involves real physical and emotional trauma, and a slow erosion of the relationship you had with your own body. Wherever you are in that experience, this work can help.
Postpartum Anxiety, Depression, and Rage
Postpartum anxiety can feel like constant dread that something is wrong. Postpartum depression can feel less like sadness and more like numbness, like you're watching your own life from behind glass. Postpartum rage is real, far more common than anyone admits, and almost never talked about. You don't have to wait for it to pass on its own.
You don't have to figure this out alone.
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We Talk First A free 20-minute consultation, no commitment, no pressure. You tell me what's been going on. I tell you how I work. We figure out together if it's a good fit. If it's not, I'll point you somewhere that is.
We Do the Real Work This isn't just talking about your feelings. Using EMDR, IFS, and somatic approaches, we work with what's actually happening in your brain and nervous system, not just the surface. We go at your pace, and we don't stop when things start to get real.
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You Start to Feel Like Yourself Again Not a new version of yourself. Not a healed, optimized, rebranded version. Just you, without the weight of what happened running in the background of every single day.
How I work
I use EMDR, IFS, and somatic approaches because they actually get to the root of what's happening, not just the surface. We process the memory of what happened so it stops replaying like an alarm in your nervous system. We grieve the experience you didn't get. We help your body understand that it's over.
We move at your pace.
I trust you to know what you're ready for.
IReady to actually do this?
I've spent over a decade doing this work, with specialized training in EMDR, perinatal mental health, attachment, and trauma-focused approaches.
I know how to go to the hard places without rushing you. I know how to sit with grief that doesn't make sense to anyone else. I know what it takes to help your body feel calm again.
You can't change the past. But you're ready to stop letting it run the present.
If that's where you are, I'd love to chat.
Come have a cup of coffee in my St. Paul office, located near the Minneapolis/St. Paul border. Or meet me from your couch. Either way, I'm here.